'Tis a complicated question. I'm surprised you consider a stranger's opinion of value.

[ But, hmm... He'll have to think on it, lifting a hand up to his chin to sort through his feelings and memories. Years and years of thoughts and experiences and historical records— ]

I believe that anything that can be worked through should be, especially for the betterment of all. It may sting or it may reopen old, ancient wounds but moving forward is almost always the correct path.